Let's get real about the expectations we have for our body. From can early age most of us both men and women have been entangled in wanting features we do not naturally have. If you were born with curly fiery red hair , you may have wanted barbie blonde straight hair, if you had deep brown eyes you may have wanted baby blues, if you had a gap in your teeth you may have want to close it up. The list goes on and with social media, surgery, a warped sense of reality, and photoshop you have to constantly remind yourself you are enough just the way you are.
If it's okay, I would like to share a story with you about my personal body image journey. Ever since I was about the age of 10 my hips have been wider than my waist and my bottom began to grow. So I may have worn a smaller size at my waist and one size up in the hips.
One Christmas a family member got me a pair of jeans. When I tried on the jeans they didn't quite fit, however they did fit my older sister who had small hips. I then was shamed into believing there was something wrong with my body because my sister was older and slimmer than me. In reality, I was the super slender, I just had wider hips. Knowing what I know now you can even have jeans your size and they still do not fit you properly. It is all about the cut and fabric blend, but 10
year old didn't know that.
On another occasion I had a nanny during summer vacation. I put on my tinker bell tu-tu bathing suit to get ready for a swim and cool popsicle, talking about a soft-life! My nanny looked over and saw I had stretch marks on my bum and exclaimed I was to young to have stretch marks on my butt and it was unhealthy. What she didn't know that lack of skin elasticity was common in my family and that stretch marks are natural when your butt grows. She completely ignored the fact I was slender and of healthy weight. This one moment made me self-concious about the stretch marks on my bottom. Had it not been for my parents constantly affirming me in those moments it could have lead me toward wasting money and hope on bleaching creams, weight loss pills, and so many other unhealthy forms of trying to reach for perfection.
As I continued to grow, and receive positive affirmations about myself I began how to learn how to do it for myself. Because the truth is, if you look long enough and if you listen long enough to warped opinions the appreciation and acceptance you have for yourself will fade.
Things to try to minimize an unhealthy body-image
Learn to determine the people who are telling you things out of love and truth and the ones who are perfecting unrealistic expectations onto you.
Affirm yourself everyday .
Replace the word flaw with natural.
Sit with the reality. No one looks 100% perfect and everyone has something. Limit comparing yourself, you are you and that is the only person you can ever be.
Work on the things that you can healthy improve to boost your confidence.
Reduce wearing makeup and using filters, even if you are uncomfortable doing so, over time you will embrace it.